because it’s complete bullshit
regardless of whatever macho self-aggrandizing definition you want to give masculinity
men hit women
men rape women
real men have done this and continue to do this
by saying “real men” don’t do this you are disassociating yourself from…
This is wrong-headed. It’s a waste of energy attempting to score points in a semantic argument that does nothing to solve the problem—which is exactly what you are excoriating alleged purveyors of this saying for. You would be better served allying with those who express this sentiment, however expressed, because they are ultimately against the same behavior you purport to find detestable. Progress in a progressive society will be gained more quickly through educating others as opposed to condemning them, even if the latter makes you feel better at the moment.